In the interest of providing the opportunity for members of our community to Level Up in a conscious way and to allow for our events to be as safe as possible, our mentorship program is designed to provide education, internal reflection, and feedback from peers for people that are relatively new to the realm of Sex Positivity. Our goal is to ensure that we share a language and to provide tools that help each of us manage both the joy and the pain inherent in personal growth and deepening relationships, whether polyamorous or monogamous. We are all on a journey, and the more that we can show up in a centered, supportive, positive space (for ourselves and for others), the better off we all will be.

Here’s how to level UP

Review our Leveling Up Page.
Watch our Orientation, Boundaries, Leveling Up & Safer Sex Talk video and email us what you’ve written during the writing exercises. Successful completion gets you to Level E1.5.
Attend our Leveling Up Boundaries workshop. Successful completion gets you to Level E2.
Email Empowered Pleasure and ask for a mentor.
Meet with your mentor.
Attend event(s) with your mentor.

Note that neither Cliff nor Charity generally serve as mentors, and your mentor cannot be a partner, lover, or a potential partner/lover.

Mentor responsibilities

Meet with your mentee to discuss their history of involvement with Sex Positivity and review their understanding of boundaries, consent, and the STARS talk. If your mentee will be moving up to Level 3, discuss ways to process new experiences in a sexual environment and techniques to manage drop.
- You can meet in-person or via Zoom
Attend at least one E2/E3 progressive event with your mentee and provide feedback. They need to attend at least 3 to get to E3.
- Before the event, discuss desires, fears, and boundaries with your mentee.
Attend one or more E3/E4 progressive events with your mentee and provide feedback. They need to attend at least 3 to get to E4.
- Before the event, discuss desires, fears, and boundaries as well as Sex Brain and how to manage drop with your mentee

Feedback from Mentors

Moving from E2 to E3

Does your mentee have a solid grounding in the language of sex positivity (boundaries, consent, diversity, STARS)?
Is your mentee aware of their triggers and do they have a strategy for managing them?
Can your mentee receive a “No” gracefully?
Does your mentee interact with people from a variety of backgrounds (e.g., culture, gender, orientation) respectfully?
Do you have any concerns about leveling up your mentee? If so, what do you think they need to continue to work on?

Moving from E3 to E4

Have you witnessed your mentee in Sex Brain? If so, how did they maintain predetermined boundaries?
How does your mentee manage feelings of jealousy or being “left out”?
Does your mentee demonstrate the technique of “giving without expectation, receiving without obligation”?
1. Can they enjoy play without needing to head for the orgasm?
2. Can they remain in the playground that is available to them at a particular event and thrill in edging without resenting the boundaries of the play container or the play partner?
Would you recommend that your mentee move up a level? Why or why not?
Do you have any concerns about leveling up your mentee? If so, what do you think they need to continue to work on?

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If you are not a member of the Empowered Pleasure MeetUp group, make sure that you answer all of the questions when you apply!