Empowered Pleasure Code of Conduct

  • All touch must be consensual

    • Always verbally ask before touching and wait for an explicit “hell, yes” before touching - even if it is someone you have touched many times before.

    • Even if you have given someone perma-consent, please model asking out loud before you touch the person, especially in spaces where new members are present.

    • Play within the Level of the event and members involved. If you are unclear, ask.

  • Inform Charity, Cliff, or your mentor if you witness or experience non-consensual touch.

    • We are not a “don’t ask/don’t tell” organization.

    • Assurance that one will not be touched without consent is foundational to being a safe sex positive space, no exceptions.

    • Share the who, what, where, and when. While our culture may have shaped us to avoid the conflict involved in “telling on” someone, we are working to be a space for shared growth. Your anonymity will be maintained.

  • Follow our current COVID-19 safety and disclosure protocols

    • All in-person participants must test within twelve hours of an event and show their results.

    • Do not come if you have even the mildest cold symptoms.

    • Do not come if you have a known exposure within 5 days prior to an event.

    • Inform us immediately if you test positive within 5 days of attending an in-person event.

  • No Hate Speech

Practice loving communication to one another, especially with members who are different from you. We will not tolerate hate or derogatory speech of any kind and strive to maintain an environment that is safe for people of all cultures, races, sexual orientations, genders, creeds, abilities, sizes, and neurologies. To put it succinctly, “Don’t be an asshole.”

  • Confidentiality

Do not discuss anyone else’s experience, including who or what you have seen. Do not gossip about members. If you are having interpersonal difficulties with another member, if possible, work with them directly and do not sow discord in the community. If you need help, reach out to Charity, Cliff or your mentor. While we may be unable to help you work through your difficulties, we can refer you to relationship coaches, mediators, or therapists. If the interpersonal conflict is related to a boundary violation, see second point above.