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Leveling Up Boundaries (Free!)

IN-PERSON

This event is a Leveling up Event. If you’ve attended or watched our Orientation workshop to move your Level to E1.5, you'll be eligible to move up to E2 after attending this event. We briefly cover boundaries and consent in the Orientation and recognize that learning to practice them is a lifelong journey. All Levels – E1 thru E4 – will find value in this workshop.

This workshop also means you don't need a mentor to become E2.

“Yes” and “No” are some of the first words we learn as toddlers, and for most of us, we’ve often mixed them up ever since. As young children, the large humans who are our only source of food and comfort often do not appreciate the word “no.” We are expected to say “yes”, even when we don’t want to. We are socialized that saying “no” to certain things is insulting the asker and saying “yes” to other things has implications about our character.

Have you said “yes” when you meant “maybe” or “no?” We’ll explore what gets in the way of “no” for you - whether that’s caretaking, fear of repercussions, awkwardness, lack of practice, feeling “no” isn’t okay, or some combination of all the above.

Have you said “no” when you meant “yes?” This can happen due to shame over what we do desire, fears of being unable to say “no” later, concerns about social contracts and expectations, being told that playing “hard to get” is an appropriate course of action, or a myriad of other things.

Do you sometimes have difficulty even identifying if someone’s ask is a “yes” or “no” for you? You’ll be invited to explore the reality that a “maybe” is a “no” to that particular ask but not necessarily to that particular human being. We’ll explore ways to embrace your “maybe” as a “no to that, but yes to you!”

Other situations we’ll discuss and practice:

Has someone given you a “yes,” but something about their body language suggests that it may not be a “hell, yes!” for them?
Have you struggled with how to respond gracefully to another person’s “no” or “maybe?”
Have you opted to ghost or avoid someone due to difficulty saying “no?”
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